OMG.
“… Stop it.”
XD
In my mind, that’s Jack’s blood on the ground.
Of course it is. He was dead, Sherlock was called and was standing there looking at the body and Jack gasped back and immediately this. The end. :)
gq:
Moderator: “What’s a mixtape?”
Suri: “Well, we all liked the same girl, so we made a tape with all our favorite songs on it, and we gave it to her with a note that had Himanshu, Victor, and Ashok and three boxes and ‘who do you like?’ And she put in a fourth box and checked ‘Arcade Fire’.”…
Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”. “Friendzone” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “no”.
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(via thechocolatebrigade) Sadly, this is a PC version of what you usually hear. “Bitch” or “lesbian” are probably more common than “friend zone”, but the latter response is more insidious, as the people who fall back on that excuse tend to feel self-righteous about it. (via slaneofthought) Or “slut” anyway, if she said “yes” to someone else but not you. |
Eye Candy!
I went wide and large to have diversity in age, style, temper, looks…
Hope you enjoy!
Ooo, pretty. Not very racially diverse though. Let’s keep this party rolling!
Posts about abuse in the BDSM Scene are making their way through the blogosphere, and they’re predictably heated thanks to certain facets of domist rape culture present there. The first comment was from a self-identified 28 year old female bottom, who said:
wow…traumatized?? i think…
![nemesissy:
vladislava:
maymay:
While I was at Arisia 2012, I went to the Sexual Harassment and Assault in Fandom panel, at which I learned about the Back Up Project, an inter-convention initiative intended to create environments that are actively uncomfortable for abusers to exploit. This is particularly important in “geek” communities, where the Geek Social Fallacies are cultural enablers of assault. Here’s one of The Back Up Project’s handouts:
BACK UP
The Open Source Women Back Each Other Up Projectreal world help for a real world problem
The Project aims to make help against harassment visibile and available, to create safer environments, to help women to support other women and men to challenge other men. We want sff, anime, comic, and other cons to be safer spaces for women.
I will break through your Somebody Else’s Problem invisibility field and come over and ask if you’re okay.
I will remember that you are in charge, and if you don’t want my help, I will go away. I will be there to help you in the future if you need it.
I will help you contact help: your friends, the event organizers, or police/security officers, if that is what you would like.
I will help you to the best of my ability if you’re being harassed or made to feel uncomfortable. Just let me know, even if you don’t know me.
I will not tell you that you must have been imagining things.
I will not say to you to go home, or go hide in your room, or just stay away from that guy.
I will not make you feel like your right to control over your own body is not a big deal.
http://www.backupproject.org/
There are also large buttons that you can wear to signify that you are an “active bystander,” someone who is willing to take on this “back up” role.
Some useful tips to help prevent sexual assault from the panel:
Watch people’s eyes: if someone’s in a conversation but not making eye contact with the person speaking to them, the person avoiding eye contact may be wanting an escape from the interaction. If they are looking down, they may either be very shy, or they may have given up finding an escape.
Tension can be seen in the jaw: people who are uncomfortable in social situations or are in distress carry tension that can often be seen by tight-lipped expressions, grinding of the jaw, and so forth.
Offer social outs: interject with a question such as “Do you know where [the pool/registration table/etc.] is?” If the person wants an out, they can say, “Oh, yes, let me show you.”
Check in using hand signals: Catch the eye of someone you think may be uncomfortable while standing behind the aggressor and flashing an “Ok?” hand signal, which looks like this:
Remember, as the panelists said, in order to address the issue of rape in society, we need to address the role of the rapists—the real rapists, not the storybook rapists. Most rapes (77 percent!) are perpetrated by people who the survivor knows. That means there are rapists at the large conventions you’re going to—no exceptions, no excuses.
Further, criminals deliberately perpetrate crimes at conventions because they know it can be more easily disguised. Think about it: how many people have you seen in masks and costumes at the last Sci-Fi/Fantasy convention you went to? Yeah…that.
See also
On Blogging, Threats, and Silence
List of Rape Myths
iHollaback.org
This is really cool, and not just for conventions but for everyday life. Good tips on addressing potential harassment/abuse/assault while respecting agency.
This is excellent, typical maymay quality.- I will say that the body-language tips are maybe better to take as ‘loose guidelines’ given the range of different motivations for not making eye contact or having a tense jaw (I do both sometimes, even when I’m not being specifically stressed by an uncomfortable/threatening interaction, bc of the stress of just being social sometimes) and the different presentations of ‘feeling threatened/invaded/stressed by a person’ across different neurological setups.
But the ‘OK sign’ and the ‘social outs’ parts are gold.
It gets easier to ask if people need backup the more you do it.](http://28.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lxtba2RRmM1qzs83po1_500.jpg)
While I was at Arisia 2012, I went to the Sexual Harassment and Assault in Fandom panel, at which I learned about the Back Up Project, an inter-convention initiative intended to create environments that are actively uncomfortable for abusers to exploit. This is particularly important in “geek” communities, where the Geek Social Fallacies are cultural enablers of assault. Here’s one of The Back Up Project’s handouts:
BACK UP
The Open Source Women Back Each Other Up Project
real world help for a real world problemThe Project aims to make help against harassment visibile and available, to create safer environments, to help women to support other women and men to challenge other men. We want sff, anime, comic, and other cons to be safer spaces for women.
- I will break through your Somebody Else’s Problem invisibility field and come over and ask if you’re okay.
- I will remember that you are in charge, and if you don’t want my help, I will go away. I will be there to help you in the future if you need it.
- I will help you contact help: your friends, the event organizers, or police/security officers, if that is what you would like.
- I will help you to the best of my ability if you’re being harassed or made to feel uncomfortable. Just let me know, even if you don’t know me.
- I will not tell you that you must have been imagining things.
- I will not say to you to go home, or go hide in your room, or just stay away from that guy.
- I will not make you feel like your right to control over your own body is not a big deal.
There are also large buttons that you can wear to signify that you are an “active bystander,” someone who is willing to take on this “back up” role.
Some useful tips to help prevent sexual assault from the panel:
- Watch people’s eyes: if someone’s in a conversation but not making eye contact with the person speaking to them, the person avoiding eye contact may be wanting an escape from the interaction. If they are looking down, they may either be very shy, or they may have given up finding an escape.
- Tension can be seen in the jaw: people who are uncomfortable in social situations or are in distress carry tension that can often be seen by tight-lipped expressions, grinding of the jaw, and so forth.
- Offer social outs: interject with a question such as “Do you know where [the pool/registration table/etc.] is?” If the person wants an out, they can say, “Oh, yes, let me show you.”
- Check in using hand signals: Catch the eye of someone you think may be uncomfortable while standing behind the aggressor and flashing an “Ok?” hand signal, which looks like this:
Remember, as the panelists said, in order to address the issue of rape in society, we need to address the role of the rapists—the real rapists, not the storybook rapists. Most rapes (77 percent!) are perpetrated by people who the survivor knows. That means there are rapists at the large conventions you’re going to—no exceptions, no excuses.
Further, criminals deliberately perpetrate crimes at conventions because they know it can be more easily disguised. Think about it: how many people have you seen in masks and costumes at the last Sci-Fi/Fantasy convention you went to? Yeah…that.
See also
This is really cool, and not just for conventions but for everyday life. Good tips on addressing potential harassment/abuse/assault while respecting agency.
This is excellent, typical maymay quality.- I will say that the body-language tips are maybe better to take as ‘loose guidelines’ given the range of different motivations for not making eye contact or having a tense jaw (I do both sometimes, even when I’m not being specifically stressed by an uncomfortable/threatening interaction, bc of the stress of just being social sometimes) and the different presentations of ‘feeling threatened/invaded/stressed by a person’ across different neurological setups.
But the ‘OK sign’ and the ‘social outs’ parts are gold.
It gets easier to ask if people need backup the more you do it.
Political Cartoon
By Alex Hoffman
When Falls The Coliseum - 1/20/12It’s a bit too easy to pick on alex, but I woon’t let that stop me.
I mean come on. Lady tied to the train tracks, how cliché can you go? And why is there a mountie in the comic? And why are the speech bubbles arranged so that it’s not clear what order they’re supposed to be read?
Maybe this is a manga!
…do. Do people not get this? Is the reference actually that obscure?
Because, holy shit, no it’s — it’s a reference. It’s not just random. Snidely Whiplash? Dudley Do-Right? Ringing any bells? No? Remember that really terrible-looking CGI horrorshow a few years back Rocky and Bullwinkle? It was based on a cartoon that was actually funny. This, this is a reference to a series of shorts that aired within it.
…if I’m explaining a joke you got, I AM REALLY SORRY. I legit can’t tell if people aren’t getting it.
I grew up in a house without a television. I recognize this reference.
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